TO NAG OR NOT TO NAG?

Being a wife has turned me into a big nagger. Living with someone else means I have to tolerate with him a lot. But sometimes, I just can't close one eye and pretend everything is OK. So, here is when nagging starts. I just can't help it. Probably, we women need men who listen to what we are saying and don't just pretend to listen. Strangely, I know when Jon is not listening eg: he did not do what I had communicated to him earlier even after he had nodded his head(giving me assurance that he heard me) and sometimes ingnoring me completely, turning into deaf hears and there is where I'll start to nag and I'm pretty sure he doesn't like it. But who likes to nag? Oh well, thats parts and parcel of my marriage life to you. But take the nagging away, living with someone else also means that we are learning and knowing more about each other - it can be sometimes unpredictable on what he does eg: how he likes his clothes to be folded, how he squezzes his toothpaste(it can be irritating sometimes knowing that I prefer to squeze it from the bottom and he prefers to start from the top), where he put his "stinky" socks after he comes back from work, he releases stress by playing the PS2 while ignoring me....Urgghhh.....those little little things makes me nag like an old woman and drives me crazy and I feel irritated too.

But then again, there was one time where he thought of a good defence statement about my constant nagging. He defended himself on why do I need to nag about him every little things that he does. He did point out areas which I did in his opinion irked him as well but being a gentleman as he put it nicely, he doesn't think it is neccessary to point it out and letting me know my weaknesses. Just gotta live with it and TOLERATE! You can't change a person overnight. Its a learning and adapting process.

I was silence for a while when he expressed his thoughts about me being naggy and I can't help but to ponder.What he said, was quite true. Why do I need to nag? Maybe its because I care about him? Or maybe I'm trying to change him into somebody else? So, yeah he's right. Two of us have been brought up in two different ways, two different person altogether. Marriage is not about trying to change the other person but more to learning how to be understanding, adapting and tolerate with each other. It will not be easy but both parties have to try. I still remember a sermon by Pr.Daniel the other day, marriage can only works when 2 people have the same Master, Mission and only we can be a perfect Mate for each other. So, to nag or not to nag? I guess I know the answer, but oh well.... maybe I'll start to nag less then!